I have gone through this experience myself and even as a nurse, things can happen suddenly, followed by a huge amount of information you are given to process. 

A diagnosis of cancer can be quite stunning and overwhelming. Keep a log or diary, writing down any questions or symptoms you are aware of, or any new information you are receiving. Don't be afraid to ask questions. There are many support organizations and groups out there. Your case manager or nurse should be able to help set you up with them.

As a cancer survivor myself, there are many lessons I learned in my journey. The advice I would give to someone just diagnosed with Cancer is: 1) Get rid of ALL negativity and stress. The diagnosis is stressful enough by itself. Being in a negative environment will drain you of the energy you need to make it through treatment, 2) Find out what services are available to you, such as a Cancer support group, Health, Nutrition, and Stress Reduction classes, 3) Find positive affirmations that speak to you personally and say them to yourself as often as you need. Lesson #4 - If you pray or journal, then do so. 

Take one day at a time, and DON'T GIVE UP!

Every cancer patient has a unique journey. Don’t compare yourself to other patients with the same cancer diagnosis. Your journey is your own. Don’t over research or talk to too many people it will only cause more stress. People will naturally want to share stories. Stick to the facts, your facts. 

Never give up on Hope. Keep your loved ones close.

There are many options out there for treatment of cancer. Chose the path that feels "right" for you and your philosophy with life and health. I am a nurse and a cancer survivor. I was bombarded with different methods of treatments. (alternative as well as medical) I had 10 year old twin boys that I needed to consider in my fight for life!  

- Being an advocate for yourself and setting boundaries was very beneficial in my fight.

- Have a positive attitude was the next important aspect. This helped me get up everyday and work through surgery and treatments.

- Join a support group. This is very beneficial in keeping connected with those that are getting healthy again, along side of you.

- Enjoy your oncology team. They are there to help you in every way!

All grief emotions are felt. It is a life-changing event and be honest with loved ones. Tell others when you are ready and have had some time to absorb all the overwhelming information. I have had cancer myself and recently my son who is an adult was diagnosed with cancer. As a mom no matter how old your child is at the time of the news, it tugs at the core of your heart. Have a good support system and reach out to spiritual support. I am in 9 years remission. When you are first diagnosed, time and days may seem like a blur. Every cancer journey is different. 

Your journey is your story. Share your journey/story at your comfort level.

Believe, 

Be Strong, 

Be Brave, 

have hope and courage, 

and know that you have support

Rest, ask for help when you need. 

Continue living. 

Do not let the diagnosis define you

As a nurse, I would often say to a newly dx cancer patient, "It will be ok, you will get thru it". As a cancer survivor, I came to realize those words were meaningless and shallow. I didn't want to hear, I will get thru it. Instead, I wanted to know that I had a team helping me get thru the scariest time of my life. Now, as a nurse having survived cancer, I say to a newly diagnosed patient, "We are here to support your journey. You are a warrior! We will be right here beside you to help you and your family during this difficult time in you life ."

Take it one day at a time. Have a pad of paper and a pen with you at all times to write question that come to mind down. Take a loved one or friend to the first few appointments to help you remember what was discussed about you treatments. Journal what is happening and how you feel. Remember to speak up and ask questions, there are no dumb question, only the ones you don't ask. Think positive, eat right and rest when you need to. You got this! 

You are stronger then you think and braver than you know.